Is Gambling sending you to the poor house?

Is Gambling sending you to the poor house? Gambling ruins peoples lives, their families, friends, everyone is impacted by a gambling habit. Is your gambling habit spiraling out of control..?

This week I sat with a client that had been gambling for just over 10 years, Pokies to escape the pressures of life and to try and win back some of the lost money to pay off debts accumulated by gambling.. Its a no win viscous cycle of a small win followed by a big loss...

After asking lost of questions about my clients life and gambling habit we were able to go back to a childhood memory - age 5/6 - walking along the street and found a shiny coin on the ground... feelings of LUCK and euphoria remembered then followed by a memory of giving mum the money (the coin) cause she needed it more than my client... So we have two states anchored here:

1, euphoria of LUCKY find of money (happiness)
2, feeling good about giving it to someone else and not keeping it.

After working on this memory I was able to reason with my clients subconscious identity of "LUCKY" and "money giver" to help my client understand that the adult behavior of this repeated pattern was not a successful strategy - the subconscious agreed to change the behavior and stop gambling...

So far so good... No gambling since the session - we need to still follow up for one or two more sessions but so far we have a solid result and the client is very happy.

If you or someone you know needs help with Gambling contact me for confidential and impartial help.

Lack of integrity causes bad health


1.The quality of being honest and having strong moral principles.
2.The state of being whole and undivided.

What does integrity mean to you?
What would you; are you; doing in your life that doesn’t fit into the Dictionaries meaning of integrity?

Your business is your own business right? No one has the right to butt into your affairs or lack of integrity… if you are at a lack of integrity… and who should throw stones when many of us live in glass houses..?

There are many people who live out of integrity each day in many ways, living with the negativity of their actions or telling untruths, in jobs that pay really good money even though fulfilling the role of that job places them way out of integrity… And if they didn’t fill that job, if they didn’t get paid well to lie, cheat and hurt people in the name of profit or company culture… someone else would right..?

Well you are right. If they didn’t do it someone else would… Have you ever noticed that those people’s health is declining the more they do things which hurt other people, maybe headaches are more common than they used to be… perhaps stresses seem to affect them more easily, they seem to just feel generally unwell more and more… or suddenly they complain to you that they can’t sleep as well as they used to and anxiety is starting to set in..? Perhaps some recreational gambling might help or alcohol – just to try and forget..?

These are actually signs that the energetic karmic universe is catching up and that’s one part of the universe that can’t be cheated. Living a life with a lack of integrity or intention of harm towards others will always balance out in the universe.

What about working in a job you hate, there is a negative culture, backstabbing, blame throwing and finger pointing… And you get paid well to stay at that job and pretend it’s not happening around you? Maybe you even start backstabbing your work colleagues because everyone else is doing anyway right..?

Your body’s energy and subconscious integrity will always know when you are living your life at the effect of someone else’s happiness… and your immune system will suffer; I see many clients who come in at their wits end, suffering with chronic illnesses, anxiety, depression and feeling very unwell because they have either been living out of integrity and causing someone else pain or they are at the effect of being treated soo badly that their emotional pain is manifesting into physical symptoms.

So is it worth it?
The big bank loan to go on holiday, buy that house that was too expensive in the first place or the loan on the car? Is this stuff keeping you in a job you hate, keeping you in a job that takes you out of integrity each and every day? Got to be liar, cheat, fake it to make it to make sure the bank gets its money back.

No judgment – This is not about being judged by me or anyone else externally, this is about your own karmic energy balancing out your life according to your actions.

Working in a culture that is negative is the same as working in a petroleum plant or toxic chemical plant and being exposed to the harmful chemicals each day. I remember working in a negative, backstabbing cultured workplace and each day I used to wake up feeling dizzy, frustrated and negative and thinking there was something wrong with me.. there was - I hadn't left yet..!

The lifestyle people think they are working towards at the cost of others happiness or their own integrity will eventually be the lifestyle that will lead to physical illness or psychological issues.

Integrity doesn’t necessarily mean right or wrong, it simply means something is working or it’s not. If something is working and you are causing no hurt or harm… keep going it and keep well. If it causes hurt or harm to others or yourself… it’s time to rethink your choices.

Charles Vella 2015.

Future Past.

Is your Future Predetermined by your Past ?
By Charles Vella


As adults we like to think that our actions, behaviours, decisions and choices are our own and independent of past influences like our parents, teachers and or older brothers or sisters…  Nothing could be further from the truth, in fact every action and reaction we have in life is due to acting and reacting from our past.

Our core personalities and behaviours stem from our exposure to life during our early years from birth to about 7 years of age give or take.

During this time we experience imprinting and we learn unconsciously to cope with anxious parents, angry and frustrated parents who yell at each other, parents with vices such as alcohol dependence or who have abusive personalities.   We learn to cope with socialisation in day care centres, being left at day care or preschool for the first time, being accidently lost in a shopping centre to being bullied by older children and even sexual abuse.

Every experience is recorded by the subconscious during every waking minute and reviewed while we sleep; we somehow try to make sense of our world, our parents, teachers, friends and even the bullies we meet in life already.  And the one most common thing we all establish very early on in life is the “I’m NOT good enough” self-talk or feeling.

Then as we grow we behave from our already established coping strategies that were formed at an age when we were too young to know better and un-resourced at the time.

As adults every action and reaction we experience is based on our past experiences and wait for it….  Every plan or dream we have for the future is from that same blueprint of the past..!    We are writing our predetermined futures from the blueprint of our past and a 5 – 7 year old is the draughtsperson… the careers we choose, the friends we keep, the lovers and lifelong partners we attract and even our finances are a direct result of our past teachings or influences.

So am I doomed?  Not at all, if your life is working out just great and you really do love your life and even your I’m not good enough doesn’t get in the way,  then your predetermined future is not a problem at all.

However if you notice areas of your life that you are not happy with and can’t seem to make a change no matter how hard you try, or behaviours you wish you didn’t indulge in or display… Then you really should look for some way to rewrite the past so you can alter your imprinted behaviours or coping strategies.

Working with me; Charles Vella in either coaching or therapy sessions can change the way you naturally behave in life and no longer need to rely on coping mechanisms.

To find out just how I can help you simply visit:

Investing in Life Coaching


All sorts of everyday people living extraordinary lives chose to invest in life or success coaching. Sports professionals, film or music performers and even most of Australia’s business leaders invest in coaching… So should you?

Life Coaching; be it for business or personal direction is one of the most useful tools that everyday people use to become successful people in order to live extraordinary lives.

These days we live in such an increasingly competitive world, with global financial challenges and the 24hr virtual world the pressure is on to compete. Due to this competitive culture we are dealing with increased performance stresses, mild anxieties and general self-confidence and self-esteem issues.

Through the techniques of coaching and Nero-linguistic Programming (NLP), clients can identify what is most important to them and align their thoughts, words and actions accordingly to their goals or desires.

Professional Life Coaches become the catalyst for change and trans-formative behavior. The benefits of investing in coaching sessions are as unlimited as the individuals desire to succeed, effective coaching impacts and improves the quality
of not only careers, but personal lives also.

Engaging in coaching is about realizing your self-reliance and personal responsibility for your successes.  It’s about taking action, contributing, and making an impact in your own life and perhaps the lives of those around you including your community. 

Simply and powerfully; coaching is about helping people tap into their already existing strengths and capabilities. Our clients already have the answers and sometimes they just need to work in with someone who already believes that they can achieve their goals.  Me; my job is to engage them in a conversation that brings about and surfaces those answers to help clear any obstacles.

By working in a completely confidential, opinion and judgment free environment, my style of coaching breaks down barriers to success and challenges clients to reach new levels of satisfaction and balance in life.

Imagine setting up a goal for yourself and then actually doing whatever it takes to achieve it.  Or imagine finally being able to shake that fear of failure and instead hold a desire to succeed which becomes stronger than any fear could have ever been. 

These benefits can often have a ripple effect throughout business, family, friendships and even communities.  This and more is possible from investing in Coaching.

Interested in what coaching can do for you? Call or email Charles Vella today at